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Claude
44 Brentwood, California, United States
Seeking: Female 22 - 35
For the sake of being upfront, I want to be clear that I am not seeking a permanent relationship at the moment. Not at all. I am in the process of unwinding a brief but unsuccessful marriage. Currently, I'm seeking a female partner (or partners) with whom I can begin exploring the Bay Area with, attend a soca fete (or at least a warmup) with and possibly satisfy mutual physical needs with. If a serious, long term relationship or even marriage should evolve from this, I’m not against that outcome. However, it should develop naturally and organically over time. I should also state upfront that my preference is Black women. That doesn’t rule out women of other ethnicities and I have dated women of many ethnic backgrounds. However, I have a decided weakness for intelligent, ambitious, curvy Black American women. I'm going to warn you now that I am INTENSE! I’ll repeat that to be clear...I'm extremely intense, and if intensity is a personality trait you don't vibe with, save yourself the misery of getting to know me for I will not change and I have no interest in changing. I love being intense! My intensity shows when I am at work on things I care about deeply, including my relationships. At the same time, I aim for my life to be stress-free, calm and relaxed and for my interactions with my partner(s) to be similarly relaxed. The best overall description I can give of my mindset is “strong opinions, weakly held”. I carry very strong opinions and if I’m talking about a topic in which I have knowledge, those opinions will be shared. However, if new information comes around, I do my best to be open to it and integrate it into my understanding of the world. I agree with and live by the following quote that John Maynard Keynes is alleged to have said in response to a critic who accused him of flip-flopping on a position: “When the facts change, I change my mind. What do you do sir?” I'm also (highly? overly?) passionate and even excitable; unconventional; nocturnal; impatient; focused; clear about what I want and what I don't want; and I've been known to curse quite a bit at times. I'm also known for being loyal, brutally honest and having a soft, chewy center covered in a hard chocolate shell. I'm a romantic though it may be difficult to discern at times. Oh, and I’m very pedantic, probably too much so at times. Sun sign Cancer with a Capricorn ascendent. INFJ or INFP Jung type on the Meyers-Briggs test, depending on whose version of the test I'm taking. Best physical features: legs, lips, eyes, butt. Or so I've been told. Oddly, I've even been complimented on my eyebrows. Worst Qualities: I've been told that I'm too emotionally expressive and excitable. I've also been told that I'm emotionally reserved, distant, aloof and cold. Yes, that confuses me as well. In terms of factual and provable disadvantages, I have full blown Sickle Cell Disease. I guess some women would consider my age a negative and disadvantage as well. If you can live with those negatives, then maybe we should talk. I’m a believer that relationships are very much about finding a partner whose flaws you can, at a minimum, live with, if not finding said flaws endearing and even attractive. Why am I single? I would surmise that its because I have extremely high standards. Though my standards are high, they are not absurd or unachievable standards. The only reason most women don't meet them is due to personal choice. I will never be happy with a woman who is content with being average. Though you may fail in an attempt to achieve a goal, the pursuit of the goal in the face of opposition, resistance and failure IS the path to success. Failure is part of the process, not the end of it. I will support your pursuit of mastery and success until you have achieved it. I don't ask for anything I'm unwilling to give. So why am I single again? I am in the process of ending a 2.5 marriage to a woman whom I once was in love with very deeply. Our split has been amicable and I expect it to continue to be. However, I'm definitely not going to be seeking a long term relationship anytime soon. I'd like to get re-acquainted with myself while having some pleasant, fun, attractive company from time to time. For 2017, I plan get back into a consistent training routine after a brutal 2013 - 2016 due to my Sickle Cell. I don't cook right now but maybe I'll start again someday. I started tearing down and rebuilding my body back in 2008. When I'm training seriously, my regimen is basically a body building routine. I eat a very low carb diet, on the order of 30 grams of total carbs daily. I supplement with whey protein, exogenous ketones, MCT oil, omega-3s, ZMA, digestive enzymes and probiotics (among other supplements). If I'm seriously training, I also get 7 - 8 hours of sleep nightly and I train almost daily. I lift to failure on every set. I use the same regimen for 3 months straight in order to maximize the results, then I switch up my combinations for another 3 months. I train to take my body anaerobic, which is where fat burning occurs, either through rowing, CrossFit, plyometrics or other explosive movements. I study new methods of achieving my goals and work in extra sets/movements. I mostly lift free weights because of the compound motion. A trainer friend of mine described my methods as "smart science". I'm a chameleon. Most of the time, I am very casual, as befits my industry and profession. I can dress when required. Example: I currently only shop for men's clothing at Brooks Brothers as their styles speak to me, especially the ties. I attended private school for my formative years, then spent the next 6 in the cream of the crop of the Prince George’s County (MD) school system. I have no problem going to a Caribbean "fete", leaving at 5 or 6 AM or spending all day in bed. My actions are often governed by my emotions and moods, yet I can be calculating and coldly efficient when the need arises. When I'm with a woman, I can be doting one minute and diffident the next, yet nothing in my perception of that woman or our relationship has changed. I will surprise you with my gratitude and kindness, then say something that totally offends you. Its what I do and its NEVER personal. As for my sense of humor, think Chris Rock or British - sarcastic, dry, deadpan. I will often say things just to see how people respond, or what meaning they add to what are essentially hollow words. It's always fun to watch how people get (re)activated by words. I WILL challenge you and keep you on your toes! That's how growth of any kind (physical, intellectual, emotional, or spiritual) occurs, by constantly challenging your limits to the breaking point. Only by attempting the impossible do we find the limits of the possible, to paraphrase Sir Arthur C. Clarke. I am not the man you seek if challenge scares you. I also warn you off if you are averse to intellectuals. Deep thinking about anything is part and parcel of who I choose to be. If you remember the television show Alf from the 1980s, like Alf, “I’m a catalyst. I make things happen.” I will be a forcing function for your growth and development just by my nature. If that doesn’t appeal to you, you should pass me by without further communication. I am biased toward action, all things being equal. This is not mindless, thoughtless action for the sake of action, but conscious and deliberate action to achieve a goal, any goal. Goals change, and thus so will actions seem to contradict themselves. But all things being equal, action is preferred over inaction. I'm working on doing more stuff in my life generally. I don't believe in "right" or "wrong", fundamentally. Those are value based judgments, and depending on your values, different things will "appear" different to you than to someone else. This is the very definition of subjectivity. I believe in "truth", as in absolute, immutable truth (which can, in some people's definitions, mean God). I also believe in "perception" - the filters, lenses, beliefs, dogma, and psychological "stuff" we all carry with us - which impacts our experience of, and even our realization of, "truth". Don't believe anything that I say; I don't hold that anything I say is true. I only present it for your consideration. BUT don't believe anything that YOU think or say either. TEST EVERYTHING!!! Challenge and test every assumption you have, every belief you possess. If the test reveals that the assumption or belief is not helpful, what you do in the face of those results will speak volumes about who you are as a person. Again, “When the facts change, I change my mind. What do you do, sir?” Most important to me is workability. Either a thing, a situation, a thought, a belief "works" for *me* or it does not, and if it does not, I don't believe in holding onto it. Workability can be measured in many ways depending on the circumstances, but it CAN ALWAYS be measured. Open, honest, authentic communication works. Lying does not work. And so forth... (And if you really want to unpack the above two paragraphs, you should definitely contact me right now.)
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